Very true; very true indeed.
I say that most people overreact. I do it almost every day. It's like something very small that happens immediately feels like it's the end of the world. You forget to brush your teeth - - you feel strange all day. You are 5 minutes late to work - - you feel like your whole day is ruined. The more that happens though, the harder it is for you to realize what problems are honestly huge, and which ones can be remedied in 5 minutes.
A few months ago, I had this big ordeal with someone in my family. I took a few moments and relaxed before going to war. Normally, I would have just fired back without question, not even thinking of the possible repercussions. This time though, I acted accordingly. It got me nowhere and I'll tell you why. It is because the person on the opposite end of the field, never thinks before they act. Everything to them is the worst thing possible. Everyone and everything is always out to get them. Nothing is ever good enough and when things do start to go their way, they do something to f it all up. Why you may ask? Well i'm asking too. I have no damn clue why. I did however look like the bigger person to most people that matter to me, just not to them... or their "side". I know that I was right in the way I handled myself and that is all that matters. I acted the way I did because I did not want to make matters worse or hurt someone I care about. I couldn't do anything about the former because of the way they reacted. But the latter was perfectly fine.
This is a person who can have it all... the great family, the fun life, the means to do everything they want. They choose to dwell on the awful, and always make it worse, regardless of what it is or the circumstances.
Lately, my fiance and I have been trying to de-stress ourselves. We've been trying to speak our minds lately to other people but ourselves. For example, if our moms or friends piss us off, we tell them now instead of trying to just let it go for the sake of letting it go. We decided on this because we kept letting everything go and it would always just get worse. People would start to walk all over us, people would abuse our friendships or relationships or take one of us for granted, or our favorite - - put us in the middle. Now when I say fiance, I assume you know that we are above the legal age to be married. We are both in our 30's. My mom had an issue with their family, but didn't tell a soul (including me). So she decided to just distance herself a bit. Turned out to be a bit too much because now my fiance's family has nit-picked everything she's done the last few months and has since pinned themselves against my mom, and brought my fiance with them to their corner. Is that fair?
Choose what you say. Think before you speak. It doesn't hurt anyone, including yourself, if you just take a few moments and realize that the shit you do affects everyone around you. If you talk about someone behind their back, it may get back to them. If you think someone is talking about you, don't lash our and act like a child, confront them and say you don't appreciate it. If your parents are pissing you off, don't let it go for months on end because it'll cause you more anguish in the end- tell them what is bothering you.
The moral of these ramblings is this: Once you have the right to vote, you have the responsibility to act like you deserve it. If you have something to say, say it and say it to the people it affects and has to do with. Bitching to inappropriate people does not count. If you have nothing nice to say, do not say it at all, ESPECIALLY if it has a chance to come back to bite you in the ass. Finally, if you are caught doing something you should not have, ie: acting like a child instead of an adult when dealing with family, lying, or perhaps saying something you should not have... own up to it and face the punishment. Everyone knows you are lying, chances are there is some sort of evidence against you, and more than anything else... you look like a giant douchebag. (sorry for the cussing).
